I love John Wooden, his
legacy of leadership and his commitment for growth is the reason I would pick
him if I had the opportunity to go back in time and spend one day with anyone,
His insight, integrity and
faith have been a guiding force in my pursuit to become a participant in life
instead of a performer.
I use to be a woman who spent
a good part of my life performing, hiding behind my masks, my tasks and my
If you would have asked me to
tell you what I was good at back in the day, what you would have found from me would have been a long silent pause
while I held back my tears, composed my thoughts and rehearsed my lines, of
course in my head.
I was good at trying to
please everyone, all the time. Did it
work? No, never. It left me completely and utterly exhausted
and the feeling of defeat was always following close behind me.
Over the last several years I
have learned to trade in the masks for hats, which I have learned to hang up on
a rack when not in use. I traded my
ticket of performance in for participation, granted, it is much messier now
then back in the day when I rehearsed every line, every action every detail of
my life but, I am free to be me.
I have also taken my tasks,
to do’s and check boxes and narrowed the
twenty plus a day down to no more then five must do’s on any given day. Granted, there are days when I might have to
add a few more but also days where I get to take off a few more as well.
Through the process of
learning how to participate instead of perform I have also been able to
discover who I am. I have learned to
focus more on what I can do instead of what I cannot do while celebrating the
fact that there is still so much I can learn if I choose to.
Also, through this process of
learning how to participate instead of perform; I was able to discover my
voice, the voice that shouts from the rooftop, everyone matters even me! The voice that likes to listen well and ask
good questions, the voice that likes to encourage, motivate and inspire.
Through this process of trading
in my ticket of performance I also was able to understand my story, the one
that starts with, once upon a time there was this little girl who longed to be
heard and ends with and when she grew up, she found her voice.
Through this process of
trading in my ticket of performance I also was able to put dimensions to my
dreams, the ones hidden deep with in my heart that were being hidden behind all
the things I believed I couldn’t do. The
dreams of helping others find their voice, know their story and live out their
dreams as well.
Today I will do as Coach
Wooden has suggested, I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can
What can I do? I can listen well, ask great questions and
pause on purpose through the process of helping people discover their voice,
know their story and live in their dream, this I know I can do.
What can you do? Please feel free to a leave a comment, I would
love to hear from you. Remember, your
voice, your story and your dreams point to the things you can do.